Off to Cambridge tomorrow

We had a great day today – we bundled up and took the S-train to Frederiksborg Castle. It was really rainy out and we got a bit wet on the way back, but it didn’t bother me. The castle still looked spectacular, and we had a lot of fun. I’ve posted some photos from the day.

Tomorrow we leave to go back to the UK, and we’ll be really sad to say goodbye to Andy. We’ve had such a lovely time. The other sad thing is that I’m not sure when I’ll get on to the internet again. But see you again soon, I hope!

Park Benches, etc.

Chris’s brother Andy lives in a 2nd floor walk up, so we’ve been getting used to hauling Rose and the stroller up and down the stairs. Today was the first day I actually did it by myself. I’d been planning on taking the stroller down first, then coming back for Rose. But I managed to carry the stroller with her in it with no problems.

Apart from this, Copenhagen has turned out to be a very accessible city in terms of getting around with Rose. In particular the metro is very well equipped with lifts. The buses all have purpose-built areas for prams, and they all “kneel down”. The only issue seems to be that it’s not easy to get in and out of shops with Rose – as I said in previous posts you’re expected to leave the baby outside. Since I don’t feel comfortable about that, we’ve been largely leaving the shops alone.

Chris went to Roskilde today to give a conference paper, so Rose and I decided to do a bit of sightseeing by ourselves. We walked around Christianshavn and ate lunch by one of the canals. Then we walked over one of the bridges to the city centre and up to Norreport to catch the metro home. The weather’s been pretty crappy, very overcast and raining on-and-off. Still, it hasn’t dampened the beauty of Danish architecture. Everything seems so stylish here. Also, I think I’ve finally worked out why I’m struggling with “public breastfeeding”. It’s not that it’s socially unacceptable in either England or Denmark (quite the opposite), it’s that these are very unfamiliar surroundings for me. When I’m on my own I feel very vulnerable with Rose. Breastfeeding in public places, like park benches etc, seems to heighten that feeling. It’s not that it’s unsafe; it’s that I don’t know my environment, so I’m more wary. Also, I haven’t seen anyone else breastfeeding on park benches, so I’m wondering where they all go?

Oh, and one more special thing about today. Today was the launch of a new metro line that goes out to the airport, and I arrived at the central metro station 10 minutes after they officially opened it. I got a fake boarding pass which gave me a free trip on the metro, and a cup of free coffee, given out by metro officials dressed up as air hostesses. Yay for free coffee!

Leaving the baby on the street

It’s been much cooler here in Copenhagen than it was in London, so we’ve had to go out dressed in sweaters and scarves rather than the bare legs and t-shirts we started with. We had a great day yesterday, a real turn of events from the previous. We got up and breakfasted at a leisurely pace, then caught the bus into the town centre. A walk along a long pedestrianized street was punctuated by breastfeeding, nappy changing, and food eating stops. We also went for a walk up the Round Tower, built in 1642. It had marvelous views of the city and I was really frustrated at leaving my camera at home. (I’ve noticed this sort of thing happens a lot. I have to remember so many baby things when we leave the house now, something of mine almost always gets forgotten.)

We then came back to Andy’s flat, via the local supermarket, and made a nice dinner.

Rose has been fantastic and took the sightseeing very well. She also slept really well last night, sleeping from 8pm until 5.30am without waking – the first time she’s done this in weeks! It might’ve been the big feed we gave her before bed, including a meal of baby rice. I really want to start her on veggies, but the prospect of cooking and pureeing food at this point seems a bit difficult. She also had a two hour nap this morning, which puts us in good stead for the day.

One thing about Copenhagen so far has shocked me: people leave their babies outside shops! I first noticed prams outside of shops, but thought they were new prams for sale. Then I took a peek – and they had babies inside! Fancy leaving your baby on the street!

Babies left outside!

New Air

I remember looking at my watch as we got off the plane in Copenhagen Airport and thinking, “I’ve never felt more tired in my life.” Yesterday seemed to be much, much harder than the 24-hour flight to London from Sydney. Partly it was a case of Rose sleeping badly the night before and consequently being very cranky and tired. It was the sort of day that I would usually “take off” and spend hanging around the house while she slept. But we had no alternative, we had to get everything packed up, we had to schlep Rose and the luggage from the hotel to the train, from the train to the airport, onto the plane, then more trains and so forth to Andy’s place. I honestly have no words to describe what “not getting more than 4 hours sleep in a row for months” feels like on top of jet lag on top of the physical demands of breastfeeding on top of constant vigilance of a baby, but you’re probably getting the idea by now.

But yay, today is another day. We’ve had a good night’s sleep, we’ve woken up here in Andy’s lovely apartment, looking outside to beautiful Copenhagen, and we’re excited about getting out and walking around and breathing in new air.

Flying solo

London was not built for women with babies. Today Rose and I had our first day without Chris, and I managed to catch the Tube down to Bond Street, and walk up Oxford St back to the hotel. The walking and shopping part was fine, mainly because Oxford Street was a lot quieter than it had been on the weekend (it was still like George Street at lunch time, though). But catching the Tube wasn’t much fun. Both Lancaster Gate station and Bond Street involved stairs. I asked for help from passers by, but my requests were only sporadically acknowledged. You can tell that a lot of random, weird, crazy and dangerous stuff happens in London because a lot of people won’t even help a single woman and her baby.

I struggled with the feeding and changing stuff by myself. I couldn’t find any baby change rooms in any of the shops or department stores. I really missed the “parents rooms” equipped with breastfeeding cubicles from back home. I ended up feeding Rose in the Marks and Spencers coffee shop, trying not to catch the eye of any of the elderly ladies lunching there. They’ve probably seen worse, right?

The other point of difficulty up until now has been that it’s been really hard to get Rose’s solid feeding stuff sorted out. It took us three days to find somewhere that sold baby rice. We went into every supermarket, pharmacy, and convenience store that we saw, and no one had baby rice. So eventually yesterday Chris took the Tube to a large supermarket in Camden Town. When he got back to the hotel we tried to sterilise the feeding equipment. We boiled everything up in saucepans, but when we checked, everything was coated in a fine layer of white powder! Yuck! Who knows if it’s from the water or the crappy saucepans? Anyway, we ended up buying some milton solution today, and a bucket, and it’s all sterilizing right now as I write this. Hopefully Rose will have a solid meal by the end of the day!

Tomorrow we fly out for Copenhagen. We’ll be staying with Chris’s brother Andy. We’re super excited because it’ll be his first meeting with Rose!

PPP

Things are going really well so far, bar a spot of jet lag. Rose woke me up at 4.30am for a feed, and I couldn’t get back to sleep afterwards. It’s just as well we were all asleep by 9pm last night! I guess it’s going to take a few days for my body to know night from day. Fortunately, Rose seems to have fitted in with the new schedule easily.

We had a good Day Two yesterday. Our mates Petra, Paul and their baby Persephone have been staying in the same hotel as us (although they leave for NY today), and we spent yesterday walking through Hyde Park, strolling around the Science Museum, and playing “duelling strollers” along the busy streets of Knightsbridge. Petra is in my parents group back home, and Percy is only five days older than Rose. It’s great being around people dealing with the same stuff as us: trying to get baby to sleep in the stroller, breastfeeding on park benches, and changing poo-y nappies in unforgiving places (yesterday’s highlight was changing Rose in her stroller on Brompton Street near Harrods. There was no where else to go! Fortunately, we tucked ourselves away in a quiet corner.)

So far it’s been breastfood only for Rose. I tried really hard to track down baby rice yesterday, with no luck. I’m not stressed about it. Given that it was optional that she start solids early, I’m sure she’ll be fine.

I’m also starting to think about what things are going to be like when we’re Chrisless. He starts going to archives on Monday.

 

The Wages of Being Prepared

The flight from Sydney to London leaves at 5pm and arrives at 6am, yet takes 24 hours. It was a long sleepless night for me and Chris; the plane was crowded with Rugby World Cup supporters, it was hard to sleep upright, and we each had half a mind on Rose.

Rose, however, slept like a princess. On longhaul international flights when you have a baby you get seated in a bulkhead seat equipped with a bassinette that clips onto the wall. Rose slept for most of the first flight to Bankok, then woke up grumpy for the obligatory stumble around the Bangkok terminal while the plane was cleaned. Several hours later, she was happy to be back in her bassinette, and slept through until about midday Sydney time. Until we landed she slept on and off in her regular day-time pattern. She cried maybe twice, and lots of people came up to us when we were waiting for our luggage to tell us that she’d been “amazing” on the flight. We were tired, but happy.

That is, until we couldn’t find our second suitcase, the one with all mine and Chris’s clothes and toiletries in it. Have you ever been standing at a luggage carousel while it goes around and around with a couple of stray bags and someone’s forgotten golf clubs? It’s not nice place, especially on such little sleep. I’m pleased to say that neither Chris nor I lost it, even when the baggage guy cheerily suggested that someone had probably taken our bag instead of theirs, since there was a similar-looking one still on the carousel, and that usually people return the suitcase when they make the discovery. It was the word “usually” that made our pulses quicken.

We made our way to the hotel and got settled in, then a few hours later, got notice that the bag had shown up (there was no explanation about what happened), and they couriered it to us poste-haste.

We allowed ourselves an hour and a half nap around midday to rid ourselves of the zombie-like feeling, and I swear I would’ve given Chris at least fifty dollars when he woke me up if he’d let me sleep more. I think Rose felt the same, it was her first crying in days. We waivered on the sound of her animalistic, low, urgent cry; what if getting her up was the wrong thing to do? How would she know about jetlag? Still, we persisted and bundled her into the stroller, and walked to Hyde Park nearby to look at squirrels and large, beautiful herons.

All was well, she slept on and off until her bedtime of 6pm. We fell into bed ourselves at 7pm, and I’ve just woken now at 6am. Everything is good, apart from the weird sulphur-like smell from the bathroom. We’ve smelt it before, we think. English pipes.

One last doctors visit before you go

Nappies? Check.

Clothes, toys, breast pump, sickie cloths, change mat, water bottle? Check.

Last visit to the doctor? Check.

We’re flying out today and you wouldn’t believe that we had to take Rose to the doctor this morning. Nothing serious, just a weird blemish on her abdomen that we hadn’t noticed before. If it’d been me or Chris, we would’ve waited until it had enlarged five times and was glowing in the dark. On Rose, we wouldn’t chance it. And imagine trying to find a doctor in the UK when you’ve just arrived?

Anyway, the doctor said there was nothing to worry about. It’s just a patch of excessive pigmentation called a “cafe au lait” mark that’s probably just darkened. Chris also asked him about Rose’s cough (she does a weird little dry cough every now and then). She’s perfectly healthy and her chest is fine. The diagnosis? A funny little habit.

As for me and Chris, we’re super excited, mixed with a little bit of panic. I’m trying to focus on the excitement. Slight hand tremor? That’s excitement.

So we’ll be out of earshot for a few days, but I’ll try to keep up the blog as much as possible. Since we’re taking a laptop, I may be able to write some posts “off line” and then upload them all at once. We’ll see. Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Gusto

Rose just had a massive feed. The book said that on Day Two of solids you should mix up 2 teaspoons of baby rice with 4 teaspoons of breastmilk. I mixed up 4 tsps of baby rice and 8 tsps of milk, thinking that she would probably only eat a little. She ate the entire container! She showed so much enthusiasm for eating that I feel convinced that we’ve started her on solids at the right time developmentally.

We started out as yesterday with her in Chris’s lap, and me spooning the food to her. Then Chris wanted to have a go, so we decided to put her in the rocker, and give the spoon to Chris. This meant I could grab the camera! Here’s a short video of our adventure:

More firsts

Yesterday, after giving Rose her first taste of food, she gave me a big smile which allowed me to see her gums. I saw a little pearly while tooth in the front of her mouth! I got Chris to check and he agreed that it definitely looked like a tooth. The only weird thing is that the tooth is definitely in the top gum, and I’d read that babies generally grow their bottom teeth first.

Another development is that we think she’s started having nightmares. For the last few nights she’s sparked up a shrill cry at around 10pm (she’s been asleep for about 3-4 hours by then). If you go in to look at her, her eyes are closed. The first night I got her up and fed her, but she didn’t really seem to wake up because her eyes stayed closed. Last night we just waited it out and it stopped as soon as it started. I hate the thought of my little girl being afraid!

The one question that remains is why does all of this stuff happen right after you go to see the doctor and the early childhood nurse?

As for everything else, it’s pretty much chaos at our house. If you were to look around you’d see a mass of laundry at various stages, as well as folded and piled clothes ready to be packed, and lists of stuff to do. Every day we get stuff checked off and we feel a lot closer to departure day. But nothing we do makes us feel any more prepared for what’s ahead!

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